It was a difficult week in Oakland, leading up to the last game they would ever play in their home stadium at the Oakland-Alameda County Coliseum.
Many games have been played here, and many fans aren’t ready to see their home team leave off to their new home in Las Vegas. But all they were hoping for was one last victorious hurrah…
And when they didn’t get it, they were not happy – and not afraid to show it.
The Oakland Raiders finished their last run in their hometown with a loss to the Jacksonville Jaguars. In previous years, Raiders players and their fans have been known to show their feelings and frustrations, and, you could say, even encouraged to show them a little less. But what with this being their last chance to get honest, the fans made quite a scene at the stadium.
Quarterback Derek Carr had finished the game 22-for-36 with 257 yards and a touchdown in the loss. Feelings were hurt. The Raiders team members, including Carr, walked off the field to a loud chorus of boos and violently thrown trash raining down from the seats.
Plenty of videos surfaced of the animosity rising out of the stands, including audible recordings of insults and visual recordings of fans and security brawling with each other. One woman was even left with an open bloody wound on her head from a flying piece of trash that was on its way down to the field.
But the aftermath was only one part of the emotions at the final Oakland game for the Raiders. All through the game, the referee Brad Rogers had to make brief pauses to it to request that the fans stop making things difficult, with nuisances like pointing lasers at the players. It all started in the 4th quarter; until that point, Oakland had been up 16-6.
It was, no doubt, a devastating blow for both them and their fans. But the Raiders are now Las Vegas-bound for the 2020 season and beyond. And perhaps it’s safe to say they won’t be as missed now as they might have been last week.
The Right Way to Bake
Apple pie is a dish that is made with lots of butter, sugar, and love for special occasions. The right response to your wife or girlfriend handing you a slice of apple pie should be along the lines of, “Mmm! That’s delicious!” That’s it!
Never should you point out a superficial flaw just like this man did here. So dear readers, never ever tell your wife they have sliced the apples the wrong way. Especially if you never cook for her.
Is My Morning Sickness Problematic?
While most women will agree that pregnancy and childbirth were some of the most magical experiences in their life, it is no surprise that it is also an extremely uncomfortable period of time for them.
Morning sickness affects around half to two-thirds of all pregnant women, especially in the first trimester. Nausea and vomiting are just two of the horrid symptoms. So while this sickness is going on, the husbands just need to be supportive. Case closed!
Don’t Like My Lasagna?
Women put forth a lot of effort to prepare meals, so it is natural they become discouraged when someone trashes their food. As a husband, one of the harshest things you can say to your wife is that the food she makes does not taste good enough.
However, this man raised the bar to a whole new level. He thought that an appropriate response to his wife’s lasagna would be to tell her that his ex-wife made it better. So she proceeded to never make it for 20 years.
Justify Actual Abuse
Domestic violence stems from a belief system that teaches the abusive individual that they have the right to control their spouse and that they are justified in using any means required to keep that control.
Unfortunately even still today many people have misconceptions about how deliberate domestic abuse is. No matter what the circumstance or context of the situation, no husband or even boyfriend should ever tell their partner that their abuse was justified.
Never Body Shame!
Body shaming seems to go on forever. It’s likely that you’ve been scrutinized or criticized at some point, especially since we live in a society with restricted beauty ideals and pervasive diet culture. Even when it comes from a seemingly well-intentioned source, a lot of body shaming is overt.
Instead of uplifting each other to be better versions of ourselves, we promote weight loss and thinness as a goal for everyone. Dear husbands, never ever tell their wife to lose weight to look good. You don’t deserve her if that’s your attitude!
What to Name Our Baby Girl
Having a baby is one of the highlights of any romantic relationship. Choosing the appropriate name for your child is an important aspect of having a baby. Parents understand that a child’s name becomes part of their identity, and you only have one chance to get it right.
As a result, parents may deliberate for months, trying various names to determine which one best suits their child. So the fact that this ex-husband had the audacity to suggest his ex-lover’s name is a good indicator as to why this woman is no longer with him.
Comparing Her to Your Mother
Although not every woman is a talented cook, it is no excuse for her husband to point out her mistakes and berate her. A woman may be an excellent cook, but she might not prepare meals in the same manner as her mother-in-law. Perhaps her personal style isn’t what her husband is used to.
It’s fine for him to share recipes with his wife that he enjoys, but he should let her approach them in her own way. Don’t say things like, “You’ll never be able to cook like my mother.” Well, unless you want to be smacked.
The Blame Game
Every woman who suffers from PMS is aware that it has an impact on her capacity to behave rationally. However, because of their hormones, women are often tired of having their judgment questioned in their personal and professional life.
Yes, there are times when mood swings are at fault but don’t try to make her feel bad for it. The worst thing I man can do is make a woman feel bad for being hormonal, especially when she’s coming from a rational place.
Never Make Unwanted Comments
It is not a bad idea to give constructive feedback. It provides information and advice. However, it can damage someone’s life if you take it to the next level. If you constantly criticize your partner, you may believe you are assisting, but you are actually hindering them.
That being said, there are certain aspects of relationships where you should never make an unwanted comment. For instance, you and your wife are going out on a date night, and she wears a new dress that she feels confident in.
The ‘Before Kids’ Complaints
They say being a mother transforms you, and they’re not lying. You will never develop a completely new organ, compel your heart to pump 50% more blood or have alien cells control your brain at any other moment in your life.
While most of those strange alterations fade away after birth, a few are permanent. There are some things that may never return to as they were before you were pregnant. Women are learning to accept it and husbands who don’t can take a huge hike!
Are You Seriously Rating Her?
You should never assign a number to a woman’s beauty or make any other judgment about her appearance that implies she is anything less than flawless. Never. This is a sure-fire way to hurt her feelings and damage her self-esteem beyond repair.
The only thing worse than rating a woman is comparing her appearance to your ex-partner’s. To add to that, never tell your wife that your ex looks better than her.
Is there ever a time for you to make a comment about your wife’s weight? Couples should, of course, be honest with each other, but be kind with the truth when it pertains to sensitive subject matter. A woman’s weight is a prime example of this.
Just one rude comment on this topic could send her into a dark place and no one should want to do that to anyone else. Especially not to someone you love so tread luckily, folks.
The Mother Card
For peace to rule in a man’s household, he must possess a certain level of knowledge in dealing with his wife and mother. One of the most common mistakes men make is attempting to compare their wives to their moms. No woman wants to be in a situation where she isn’t valued for who she is.
Your wife and mother can’t have the exact same characteristics or style, so saying she is exactly like your mother is extremely disrespectful to both your wife and your mother.
Are You Being Serious?
A woman’s life is completely transformed when she becomes a mother. Her feelings, her body, and her daily routine. All of it. However, there are some things that people warn you about. Things like sleep deprivation, a lack of privacy, or a significant shift in everyday routines.
Telling the mother of your newborn child that she has gained weight and she used to be cooler and more fun before having kids is some of the worst things you can say to her.
Think Before You Speak
It should come as a surprise to no one that women use clothing as a way to express themselves. Actually, not just women, most people put thought into the way they dress. At the same time, wearing a particular clothing item can totally change someone’s mood.
A very demotivating thing any husband or boyfriend can say to their significant other is that the outfit they are so excited about and feel confident in does not look good. Don’t be that guy!
Telling Her to Calm Down
When you don’t deal with anything right away, you’re more likely to hold negative emotional energy and get so outraged that you can’t bear being in the same room with the person who disrespected you, let alone trusting or feeling good about them.
Worse, you might snap, and if you do, there’s a good chance you’ll say something that will only make things worse. So, with that in mind, please refrain from infuriating statements like “calm down” or “you’re acting crazy.”
So, She Did it Better?
Respect is the foundation of any successful relationship. It implies that you value or honor your companion. But when you compare your spouse to someone else, you aren’t respecting them for who they are as a person.
Comparisons are actually a little selfish since they focus on what your partner can do for you rather than looking at the positive parts of your relationship. For example, how well you communicate or make each other happy.
The Benchmark Is My Ex
If all you can think about is how your ex treated you and how you wish your current spouse treated you the same way, you have a severe problem. Also, chances are you’ll ruin your current relationship because you’re still stuck on a past one.
There’s a reason you and your ex aren’t together. Wishing for your spouse to be like an ex will make you both bitter about the love you share. If you sense yourself doing this, stop right now!
Pointing Out Changes
One of the vows people take when they are getting married is to stay with each other in sickness and in health. Supporting your partner in her sickness entails both emotional support, as well as physically helping her out in any way needed.
One thing no husband should ever do is make comments about the changes in her body due to a disease she is suffering from. No, you do not have to point out if she gained or lost weight. Trust us, she already knows.
Do Not Mansplain
Never, ever, tell your wife she doesn’t know what she is talking about unless you are a 100% confident in your knowledge of the said topic. This superior behavior is known as ‘mansplaining’ and women hate it. Who wants to be spoken to in a condescending manner?
It is basically a habit that can be described as talking down to women or over-explaining while speaking with them, and it is typically gender socialized by men. Don’t be a manplainer!
Give Her a Break
A woman’s postpartum body requires some tender loving care after being overworked and stressed. It’s difficult for her to not scowl while looking in the mirror and seeing drooping skin and a bigger frame. As the husband, you should remind her what her body has accomplished!
Remember that stretching everything out takes nine months, so don’t expect her to “bounce back” in a week or two after giving birth. It is not practical, and she should not feel pressured into even trying. Nor should she be made to feel insecure.
Criticizing the Cooking
This really seems like a recurring theme in this article. Dear men, we would once again like to emphasize the fact that you really need to stop comparing the food your wife makes to the food your mother used to make. It is extremely rude to compare these two very important women in your life.
The last thing you’d want to do is start making them resent each other. Also, every person has a different style of cooking. Just because your wife has unique methods, it does not make the food bad.
You’re Not My Type
You should never point out that you are more attracted to people who are the complete opposite of her in terms of appearance. When you tell your brunette wife, you are more attracted to blondes, you might say it as a compliment.
You might think it means that despite having a thing for blondes you chose her but to her, it will most definitely sound like you settled for her. Similarly saying you prefer athletic women to your wife will only damage her self-esteem and your relationship.
While body shaming is more commonly known, that doesn’t mean to say that people don’t get given a hard time for their facial features. And why should this be a thing? Whoever feels the need to tease someone about aspects of their face is obviously an insecure person.
We’re also suggesting that these behaviors can be harmful and lead to long-term concerns with self-esteem, confidence, body image, and emotional development. Don’t be the guy that does this to someone. You’ll live to deeply regret it!
Babe, Are You Menstruating?
Do you ever come across women that appear to be frustrated, upset, or irritated? Have you ever inquired or been tempted to ask one of them if she was on her period? Don’t! It’s impolite to assume that women’s reproductive systems cause them to act unreasonably.
It also elicits the same irrational ideas that have traditionally hampered women’s progress. Asking your wife if it is that time of the month, especially during a moment when she is expressing genuine frustration at you, just shows you don’t respect her.
Talking About Being Tired
Childbirth and labor are some of the most physically exhausting things a woman has to endure. The last thing she wants to hear you say is how tired you are. Frankly, it is rude and slightly disrespectful to your partner.
Also, she needs you to understand her experience and stay by her side. So, dear readers, be supportive and never tell a woman who has just gone through labor that you’re the tired one.
How Dare You!
People who suffer from depression or anxiety may gain or lose weight as a result of their illness or the medications they use to manage it. Overeating, poor food choices, and inactivity are all linked to depression and anxiety. Obesity may develop as a result of weight gain over time.
According to studies, over 43% of adults with depression are obese. Add to the fact that her partner is stuck in prison and she has to manage everything on her own. She does not need further criticism.
You Were Prettier Before
Although this may appear to be a kind thing to say, especially if you still find your wife attractive, the focus on the past makes it easy to take offense. Having children, aging, tiredness, and simply becoming comfortable in a relationship may cause women to stop dressing up, working out, or even applying cosmetics.
Because she’s still the same person, this remark can be really painful. So no matter what, no husband should ever tell their wife she was prettier when they met. Well, unless you want to see the wrath of your woman.
Just Like Your Mother
Your wife will never enjoy being told that she is becoming her mother, no matter how much she loves her. It’s something that will undoubtedly cause her pain. Why, you might ask? Because the assertion is deceptive and quite cruel.
It suggests that she possesses all of her mother’s flaws. Of course, few individuals who say this statement mean it as praise in the first place. So, to all the men reading this, we urge you to never say it.
Baby, You Are Worthless!
After going through almost 30 stories that are sad and somewhat depressing, we have scoured the depths of the internet to bring to you a somewhat goofy one. Here a guy simply used the wrong word but had the best of intentions.
Although the words, worth and price mean the same thing in most cases, their adjectives have two completely different meanings. One is so valuable that it cannot be sold at any price while the other denotes that something is insignificant.
A Bad Compliment
‘Homely’ is one of those terms that has two meanings that are diametrically opposed. On the one hand, it connotes ease, relaxation, and naturalness but on the other, it can also refer to something being unrefined and basic.
So, when this man referred to his woman as being this way, he meant it in its most complimentary form but that isn’t how she took it. We suggest men should try stay away from words with such different double meanings!
Huge Red Flag
How would you feel if the woman who is the love of your life points out another random man, and tells you that the next time she marries will be for him? This one statement is all it takes for a perfectly happy relationship to turn into complete and utter chaos.
First of all, this statement shows her how lightly you take the relationship and it will also make her question your morals. Even though you can’t fully judge someone if one thing, this particular sentence is enough to start a major fight.
My Mother Was Right About You
The only way anyone should use the phrase “my mother was right about you” is in a complimentary way. That’s it! Otherwise please refrain from saying anything like this.
When it comes to other people criticizing your wife, rather demonstrate solidarity than make matters wase. And if you have a problem with her behavior, express your thoughts and make a clear request. To convey your point, you don’t have to gang up on her.
Don’t Call Someone Else Hot
There is a certain degree of professionalism that should be had when at work. So commenting on the “hot the new girl” firmly goes against this business practice. Furthermore and more importantly, this is highly disrespectful to your partner!
Now, just to clarify we understand that pointing out someone is attractive isn’t the same as being into them. Still, it is a road better not to be taken. Sometimes things are just best to be thought and not said.
Undermining Her Strength
If someone is struggling with something, no matter how small it is, never undermine it! What you’re basically saying to them is that they’re not smart or strong anything to handle it. Truthfully, saying this to someone makes you sound like a total bully.
Keep your opinions to yourself if she is only telling you about a scenario. She doesn’t need to be told what to do because in most circumstances, she just wants you to hear how she feels.